The worst enemy that we can ever have is ourselves. We sometimes out so much pressure on wanting things to be as perfect as it can be. But no matter how much we try to achieve perfection, it simply is not possible. When we fail, it is natural to feel bad. But staying on that state for a long time may affect you more than you really know. Not only do we make ourselves feel worse but the relationships that we have gets affected as well.
Run and take the next flight to freedom! It is useless to keep on having that same, old painful memory stuck in your mind. Things happen and some are beyond our control. We just have to accept that fact. Stop repeating the painful scene over and over until your brain bleeds. It is not the way that would help you solve your problem. This is what I often tell my friends (and to myself sometimes) that if something has pained us, it is okay to mourn about it for a time. It is fine to allow ourselves to cry it out. After all, we are human and we are capable of feeling hurt sometimes. But allow do allow yourself to just set a certain time frame for the mourning and tell yourself to start anew. If there is a need to face the mirror and talk to yourself, then do it. Sometimes, this helps you realize that you are going to a certain path that you wouldn’t want to be. Wake UP!
There is no use of making yourself feel bad and be reminded each day that you need to feel bad because something happened to you. Learn to let go. Not everything is within our control. But what we can control is on how we feel by focusing on other things that can make us productive.
Having someone whom you can trust can absolutely make you feel better. He doesn’t really need to be there beside you, but probably just a call or a text message of reassurance that there is someone who is willing to hear you out should slowly help you recover.
If your feel that negatives thoughts are creeping in, try with all your might to see things in a positive way. Or better yet, think of good memories that would make you smile and laugh. No need to magnify those negative emotions and thoughts.
Things that happened in the past could never be undone. So instead of focusing your time on having a re-run on how everything had happened, focus on making better solutions instead.
And finally, please do remember that you also deserve to be happy. It may be difficult at first, but try to regain your old self not just because of yourself but primarily because of your loved ones. They get affected seeing you in such state. We get depressed on certain events in our lives. No matter how painful it is that we are going through, take it as a lesson in life to strengthen you