Somewhere along the way, we collectively decided that the BEST mom, the mom we must all strive to be, is the doting mom who stays home with her children. We’re not supposed to work just because we want to work, especially if it means finding other people to help take care of our kids. I just don’t believe that “good” mothering must be defined by the amount of time we spend stay-at-home parenting. Not just around what a “good mom” is, but also around how we define priorities. This means that for some hours of the day, my kids are my top priority. ” The working moms I know only ever admit to relishing work in hushed tones. ” or “I just want to stay busy while the kids are in school. Some days my kids get my all and some days they get a previous decade’s version of “all. Being happy makes me a better mom because it makes me a better person. Many women find fulfillment being stay-at-home moms and that is a wonderful thing.
That being said, would you still say that a good mom is the kind of mom that has restricted herself from growing and learning more? Being a stay at home mom is a precious thing for growing children. But considering the times, moms should be able to help dads in making sure that there is food on the table, a roof over the children’s head and be able to go to school and learn. It is painful to hear others saying that ,”Oh, she just feels so convenient \being a stay at home mom. She did not push herself too much to make a better life for her children.” I am a working mom but could not say working full time. But I try as much as I can to find ways on how to earn. At some point in my life I have thought that I may be too unlucky when it comes to finding a good paying job because I always give my all and yet I get less than what I should have.
Oh well, that is life! What is important is that I am not a mom who only thinks of what is good for myself but mostly for my children.