The end of a relationship can be one of the hardest times in your life. None of us go into relationships expecting them to end, and particularly when you get married, you assume from the beginning that that’s it – the rest of your life is sorted out and you’ll be with the person you love forever. Unfortunately, things don’t always work out the way that you planned. Unforeseen circumstances can arise – he isn’t the man you thought he was, or life circumstances have forced the two of you to grow apart. Luckily, there are some things you can do to make the end of your relationship easier on yourself.
Leave Social Media
First of all, get off Facebook, Instagram and Twitter. Right after a break up, there’s no way that they can do you any good. Social media is where people go to boast about their lives, even though chances are they only show you the parts that are going really well. It’s hard to remember that when you’re scrolling through countless happy pictures on a sleepless night at 3AM after the biggest break up of your life, so it’s a good idea to simply delete those apps from your phone for the time being. You should also make sure that you don’t stalk your ex on social media – that absolutely cannot do you any good at all and will only make you feel worse.
Get The Legal Stuff Over With
We all know that the legal aspect of everything is always the most boring and incomprehensible part of it, so it’s tempting to put it off as long as you can. It’s important to do your best to move on as best you can, though, so try to get it done as soon as possible, and use out of court solutions to keep down your costs. Remember to fight for what you deserve, whether it’s custody of your kids or your fair share of money – don’t trust that your ex will do what he says he will and make sure it’s all down in writing.
Spend Time With Your Friends
There’s no better way to get over a break up than to spend time with the people who love you most, whether that’s your friends, your family or your kids. Invite your friends over for movie nights with wine and pizza, go out dancing, accept all your sister’s offers to come over for dinner. People love you and care about you – accept their kindness.
Do What You Love
It’s very easy to lose yourself in a relationship, so use the end of yours as an excuse to rediscover who you really are. It’s painful, but but as the poet Andrea Gibson said, ‘It hurts to become’. Finding the core of who you are by yourself will be a tough journey but one that you’re relieved that you went on. Read more, go to art galleries, go on vacation by yourself. Being at peace with yourself will make you happier – and it’ll also help you when it comes to falling in love again.
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