When you’re single, married people tells you a lot of things about how marriage is, well let me tell you something: everything is true.
Of course there are pretty bad marriages and both man and woman will speak very badly about the nightmare they’re living, but let me give you some real facts about being married and believe me: I’ll be objective.
On a normal-based marriage is the man who works, sometimes also the wife, so… if as a single guy you had time to go to the gym, hang out with your buddies, play videogames or just lie down and relax this is going to change once you’re married. I’m not saying you won’t have time to do anything, but that alone time you used to have will decrease a lot, get ready to work, help with household chores, spend a lot more time with her, also sexual activity is increased (at least initially), get ready to fight, and once you’re married fights are not postponed, they’re still there because now you sleep with her, you live with her!
Be the head of a new family is probably the biggest step you can take (speaking about maturity), but this involves a lot more responsibility than you used to have when you lived with “mommy”. Now you have to bring food home, pay the electricity bill, phone bill, internet, water, gas, whatever you have in your home.
Apart from that your wife is still your girlfriend; you have to take her occasionally to the movies, to dinner, etc.Being married is not cheap (and having children it is much less).
If you were used to be that guy that said “I want this, I buy it”, prepare to leave behind that privilege, now most of decisions will be taken between you two (mostly by her), depending on your kind of relationship this decisions may include: which brand of milk to buy, which color to paint your room, should you cut your hair?, should you buy a Sedan or a SUV?
Your wife will have a word on each one of these decisions.
So, prepare to say “Let me ask my wife” a lot.
Living with your significant other is amazing, seeing how she wakes up, how she dresses every morning, how she prepares breakfast for you. But! That also mean new rules in your life and the way that you live, some examples are: put down the toilet lid, don’t pee anywhere else other than the toilet (not even in the shower), don’t drink milk directly from the bottle, don’t leave your clothes on the floor, etc.
Marriage Is Wonderful
Think about it, when she was your girlfriend you had to take her home at 11, may be 12, now, you don’t have to take her home at any specific hour, because she lives with you! The two of you can stay at a party until the time you want; also, did I mention that sexual activity increases?
And Sundays! Oh my god, Sundays are like: the best. You both wake up late, stay in bed, breakfast in bed! (while watching a movie). Later you organize a barbecue with some friends, everyone have fun, late at night you sleep with her again.
Imagine whatever you want but now with her, you can travel together, you can rave together (she’s still your friend), everything that used to need her parents’ permission is now allowed because she is a married woman! And I don’t know how to explain it but your personality suffers some changes (for good), you feel mature, and that my friend: is good for you.
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