Even if you love the person so much, loving is simply not enough to keep the relationship for as long as you want. I have been in failed relationships a couple of times before, I have seen some signs that I know it is bound to end but because I was still young and immature, I decided to overlook those signs and pretend that everything will turn out to be fine in the end. Here are some signs I saw that might help you determine if this is still worth it:
- Different interests – In the beginning of the relationship, opposite does attract one another. Experiencing new things and trying out peculiar activities together sound exciting but in the long run, you still want someone who shares or even understands your hobby and interests. You want someone who does not mind doing your hobby with you or even just tagging along while you go to places you like. My partner wants to go abroad to work but wants to take up schooling in Australia or New Zealand to get an opportunity to work there. There are so many seminars being offered here for free but these seminars last 3 hours or more. I am not interested because these seminars focused more on nurses but I still went there because I want to show my support.
- Lack of effort – Naturally, when the relationship is still new, one or both of you are still excited to see each other. You talk on the phone for hours even if you will be seeing one another the next day. You send text messages several times a day even if you will see each other after work or school. But after doing that for several months, suddenly someone stopped doing it. One of you started using lame excuses like “I’m busy”, “I forgot my phone”, “My phone ran out of battery” and many more. I never used any of those because if I did forget my phone or it ran out of battery, I will find a way to contact my partner so that he will not be worried. We do not need to talk for hours or send endless messages like before but the effort of just saying “I’m still at work, I might be late” or something like that which is not hard to do if you really care for him or her.
- Constantly lying – If he or she is planning a surprise party for you or buying something special for your anniversary, well, I guess lying is okay. But if he or she is frequently lying to you about his or her whereabouts, I think there is really something wrong with the relationship. We are not just talking about cheating here but simply lying. A friend of mine had a boyfriend who lives far from her. They see each other once a week only. Automatically, if they see each other, my friend would be ecstatic about it but she told me that she is not at all excited. Sometimes she lies that she has a meeting until late in the evening the day the two of them will meet so they will need to reschedule it the follow week. She even pretended that she has a meeting during her lunch break that is why she was not able to text him. She was not cheating but she doesn’t feel the same way anymore so she made all those lies not to be with him.