So you are attractive, smart and successful yet you can’t keep a relationship going for more than a few months. There
are basic behaviors in any relationship which cause unrest and unhappiness. These can be eliminated if you just think
Nagging– Women who nag are the most irritating to men. Men want their worlds to be quiet and as devoid of hassle as
possible. In the beginning of any relationship their is time to evaluate and discuss our dreams and what we really want
out of life. This is the time to find out what guys want and need. After you have committed yourself to the guy is not
the time to start finding fault. It should have been something you found out about before you committed yourself. Now it
is just noise he doesn’t want to hear. Back in the beginning of the relationship when you are getting to know one
another you could have found these things out and saved yourself and him alot of time and pain.
Giving Up The Things We Enjoy– No one should have to give up the things they enjoy for a relationship. Catering to your
man and not having time for anything else won’t make you happy. If he gives you breathing space to be yourself and to
enjoy those things that make you who you are then you can be assured that he respects who you are. You both need to have
interests away from one another. Things that make you happy and a more interesting person. If all you can do is talk
about him and what he does then you are in for trouble. Find other interests.
The ‘Where Is This Going’ Talk– If there is a lack of communication and you are feeling like the relationship isn’t
going anywhere maybe it isn’t. Does he get testy when you want to talk? If he only calls to invite you over for sex and
he doesn’t know your favorite color or what you like to eat there could be an obvious problem. If he is not answering
the phone when you call and doesn’t open the door for you or treat you with respect when you are together then he
probably isn’t worth your time and isn’t that into you anyway. If you want a committed relationship and he doesn’t want
to get tied down that is something you should get figured out before committing yourself and wasting time and effort on
him when you could be with someone who gives you what you want and need.
Thinking The Future Will Be Better– If you really think you can change him and all the quirks you are finding will
change you are deluding yourself. Staying in a relationship for this reason is a waste of time. If you are having
negative thoughts and fighting with him constantly then maybe this isn’t right and it isn’t worth the effort. If you
both really care for one another you can get through some bad patches but if you are expecting too much from him it may
not work. Better to get out now before you are bitter and hurt.
Putting Down His Friends– Your boyfriend probably has friends he has known longer than he has known you. You need to be
nice to them and even if you feel like saying something – don’t. Don’t put your boyfriend in the position of having to
choose between friends and you. This is all something you should have learned about before you committed to a
relationship with this man. So it is up to you to be aware of these friends and how they act or even how your boyfriend
acts when he is around them. It could be a dealer breaker. Do it early.
Before a woman ever commits to a relationship she should know the man. Know who he is, what his passions are, what he
wants in his future and what she needs and what she expects from this man. Knowing yourself is a great help in any
relationship. What we expect, want, need, etc. all needs to be thought out before we trudge forward into a relationship
with someone who may have some of these himself.