Have you ever had a sex talk with your child? So how did “the talk” concluded? Parents often dread this time when they have to discuss incredibly sensitive topics. Sure, we can joke about it with our friends and family. Some are candid about it with other people while others still may shy away from the topic. But when it comes to talking about the “S” word with your child, you’d better take it seriously.
When is the right time?
It is crazy when I hear friends of mine telling me they are having this special conversation with their child. It’s like preparing for an exam. The anxiety is high especially for the parent. But here’s the reality. Sex is more than just about coitus. It covers a plethora of topics that your child will sooner or later learn. It might as well be from you.
So when is it time to talk about sex with your child? The simple answer is as early as possible and when a teachable moment arrives. Children are naturally curious. And you should take advantage of this curiosity to teach them about sex.
Teachable moments for the sex talk:
- When the child dresses up or takes a bath: Talk about the differences of a boy and a girl
- When seeing people kiss or hug: Talk about the importance of showing how you love someone. You can also talk about boundaries such as who to kiss or who to hug.
- When you see advertisements: Feminine hygiene ads can spark conversations about body changes and puberty.
Teachable moments vary from age to age. What is essential is that we talk to them without malice. Providing facts and injecting values allow children to understand sex and sexuality better.
Your role as the sex guru
Are you a sex expert? I’m not! However I’m a parent and I know that I want my child to grow up with the right values and the right character. But parents often fail to address the issues about sex and relationship due to numerous aversions, cultural biases and social expectations.
Discover your role in your child’s sexual awareness
- As an educator: As parents, we are the source of their first education. We continue to guide them and fashion them through ever action we take.
- As a confidant: Establishing a strong relationship founded on trust is imperative. Can you honestly say that your child can talk about sex with you openly. As you child undergoes the physical changes and the emotional upheavals, you help them every step of the way.
- As a learner: Yes, as parents we learn about our children more. We should unravel how to ensure our children respond better so that they will listen.
It’s a difficult and at times awkward task. However, it is an essential step in your child’s learning. Moreover, it is an excellent time to instill values and morals that define them as individuals. The truth is, they will learn about it sooner or later. They will begin to explore and discover. Wouldn’t be nice that they come to you for wisdom and guidance instead of somewhere else? Sex is a part of everyone’s life. The only difference is how we appreciate what it truly means.
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