I am an only girl but I never felt I was spoiled. Unlike those who get what they want from their dads and brothers. But I never looked for it and never expected it. Reasons:
- I was raised in the US where we had no helpers and one parent is not around a lot.
- My dad was not really comfortable around girls being used to men in the military and I have 3 brothers.
- We were taught to learn to provide and fend for ourselves.
- I was more used to my mom.
But I have no regrets. It taught me life could be hard and difficult so I must learn how to survive. My dad might not have spoiled me with material things but he spoiled me with knowledge, experience and teachings. He tried to get close when he retired and we moved to live here in the Philippines. But for only 4 years after he retired. 4 years only be cause he died in 1977, we went home in 1973. A lot happened too during that short time, his mom my grandmother died in 1975. I know he was hurt because he loved his mom and was only able to be with her a short time. She stayed in our house while we were gone. But my dad did not show his emotions publicly. But I could see the pain. So he tried to get closer to me and we did. Kind of awkward, but we tried and we almost did. But he was taken from us too soon.
My relatives and friends tried to make me jealous because they were close and they even tried to make me ask my dad for so many things. But I never did, I didn’t need them. I maybe was slightly jealous but never really jealous. I was just used to my life as it was. I felt it was enough.
I was never a spoiled daddy’s girl but I am my daddy’s girl, he may not know how to show it but I could feel it. I have no regrets except for the fact I never told him enough how much I love him. So all those who still have their dad, tell him you love him, no matter how awkward or uncomfortable you feel. It may be too late and make you regret it.
I miss you daddy and I love you so much!