How to learn to say I am sorry

In some of my previous tips I have mentioned my views on the importance of forgiving others and forgiving yourself as an important step to have the peace on your mind that we all need.

But today I was thinking about the other side of the story: how to learn to say I am sorry?  How to fight against our own pride that can be the first important wall to break?

  1. Acceptance: Sometimes, when people are confronted with their mistakes in an adversarial manner, the result is that they will deny them or try to put the blame on others.  It is a natural defense.  For this reason, it is good to always have a personal time to introspectively examine personal problems and try to take the role of an impartial judge and think if there was something that one could have changed.
  2. Talk to yourself and be conscious of the reasons why it is important to recognize your part of responsibility in one problem.  Not more or less.
  3. If the answer is yes but you do not want to accept your fault there may be a problem of pride, honesty or self-confidence
  4. The way you may find to be the most appropriate to communicate this person that you feel sorry depends on different factors including how close he/ she is to you, the level of authority or how you expect this person will feel after this recognition and your personality.  Sometimes it can be a message or it could be a more elaborated scenario.

But the most important thing is to view these negative situations forward to be more aware on how you can make your part in a problematic situation for the better.

14 thoughts on “How to learn to say I am sorry”

  1. Sometimes saying sorry is hard especially if you knew that you hurt someone, but it is also the door to open up a great start for the loss line of understanding between people.

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      • I agree with you jp. Sometimes it is more important to be honest with ourselves and admit that we made wrong to keep a friendship or relationship

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  2. “Love is never having to say you’re sorry” this is a famous quote from a movie. But if you truly love the person, apologizing even if they do not expect you to do so is important. This is hard for many. But the sincerest of apologies can strengthen relationships.

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    • In many cases people do not say I am sorry because of their pride. We are humans and we make mistakes. Sometimes it is important to know what matters most for us. Thanks for your comment

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      • Pride is an enemy of of a kind heart. We have to be humble enough to say we are sorry. but you’re right, there are some who just can’t say these words.

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  3. In as much as it is difficult to forgive, sometimes saying sorry is just as difficult. It takes a lot to be able to swallow our pride.

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    • Oh yes. Sometimes beautiful friendships are broken because people
      cannot swallow their prides and admit they were not doing good

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  4. If you are definitely not at fault, you can be sorry that the situation got out of hand. You can be sorry that you don’t see eye-to-eye. You can be sorry that you can’t work it out between you logically. Be sincere and walk away. If the other comes back for a resolution discussion, talk it out. If not, stay your distance.

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    • I think that to be honest it is good to have a time to think carefully of what we have done because it is difficult for people to admit that they have done something that was not right

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  5. they said that “I am Sorry” is one of the 3 words that are hard to say along with “I Love You”

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