In my last post How To Get A Girlfriend: Tips That Will Help You A Lot we talk about some tips about how getting a girlfriend, as I said in that post “Once they say “Yes” you feel like “Hey… it wasn’t that hard”
Now, if you’ve managed to get that girl and now you’re dating I think you want that relationship to last, right? Unless what you want is to date several women without having something serious (if that’s your case then this tips are not for you). But if what you want is to have something formal with her and get to that point where you wake up and realize “Oh my God… we’ve been dating for 3 years now” then follow this tips that will give you a hand in your relationship.
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Give her a little space
I know you’re a couple now and you want to spend time with her, now you’re allowed to kiss her (and stuff like that). But! Let her breathe sometimes, let her miss you, let her know that she’s able to call you too.
PS: But don’t spend a whole week without even calling her.
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Details on non-special days
It doesn’t have to be valentine’s day, your anniversary or her birthday to give her a little something, I’ve been following this rule for years and believe me: it works. My rule is: I never give her flowers on special days, instead of that, occasionally (let’s say… every 2 months) I buy a flower or a box of chocolates and give it to her without being a special occasion, she always smile and seems grateful for that.
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Do not date other women
Do I really need to explain why this is going to help a lot in your relationship?
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Postpone fights
It is normal, couple have fights sometimes, may be you forgot her mother’s birthday or she accidentally broke your PS3, fights can happen (and will happen eventually). But if you’re fighting and things are getting a little… rude, postpone it for other day, it’s better to talk about it later when you both have tranquilized, just say “you know what? I think this is getting to that point where we can say things we don’t want, so… what do you say if we talk about this later?” and then leave (or drive her home), think about it, relax, and when things have calmed down try it again, it’s better to do it with a cold head.
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Measure things
Say compliments to her, but keep them like jewels, don’t waste them just like that.
Kiss her passionately, but don’t try to eat her.
Make sweet love to her, but do other things too, take her out or something.
Listen to her, but also speak.
Let her know your feelings, but don’t be that guy that only wants to talk about his feelings.
Call her to say hi, but remember Tip #1 “Give her a little space”.
What I’m trying to say is: measure what you do, don’t overwhelm her, if she receives a letter written by your hand she’ll be happy, but if tomorrow she receives another, and the next day… she will be like “Ok… this is getting old”, the same happens with activities, if all you do is take her to the movies every weekend then she’s going to run away, be unpredictable, change routines, in fact; don’t even create routines.
I’m pretty sure this tips will give you a hand if you want to date her for a long while, specially tips from 1 to 5.
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Apart from showing your love to your significant other, one must show respect towards each other. You might be committed to another person but that doesn’t mean that every waking hours should be all about you.
You’re right. Being in a relationship doesn’t mean to be someone’s slave, that’s why I think it’s very important to measure everything we do.
It is highly important, too that the couple should be able to sit down and talk about how they would want their relationship be like to avoid surprises which may lead to arguments later on.
I love the way you think! If only more women could see things that way…
I so agree with this. My favorite is item #2. No need to have an occasion to give something to the one you love.
Exactly!!! It’s just a normal Wednesday and your boyfriend suddenly appears with a basket and says “let’s go on a picnic!” that breaks the routine.
My grandfather once told me, the secret to a long lasting relationship was that you keep falling in love with the other person over and over again.
I totally agree with him. Grandpas are so wise.
you are my kind of man…
Well thank you =) there are still romantic men in this world (I know it seems that it is not)
oh yes, optimistic that there are
The thing is that they kind of… hide or something, I mean they don’t go to nightclubs every weeking,romantic guys are more likely to be at a cafe or a museum.
hmmm now I know where to hang out… LOL. cafe or museum… right! note taken.. thanks for the tip.
Hahaha best wishes 🙂
Just what I needed.. thanks again