How Do I Find Him?
Have you asked yourself this question before? How am I going to find the right guy for me? Perhaps you’ve dated a few but they just never have what you are looking for and the relationship doesn’t blossom into anything. Well here is a list of things to keep in mind when in pursuit of the man of your dreams.
Know yourself. Are you ready to have a relationship? Do you have baggage? Personality traits you need to change? Bad feelings about a past relationship? Are you a jealous person? Feelings for another you can’t get rid of? If you answer yes to any of these it is only fair to the next man you want in your life to get these things taken care of before you push forward to find the man of your dreams. Don’t go into another relationship with baggage.
Your wants and needs. Do you know what you want and need? What kind of a man are you attracted to? And that means height, coloring, personality, family background, religion, lifestyle, work ethic, family values, recreational likes and dislikes, life plans and sexual orientation. Write it all down. This saves you a lot of time. If you find a man that fits the bill then you are more apt to be happy than just think you are.
The non-negotiables. These things are those that you won’t negotiate on. For instance, wanting children, where you will live, sexual orientation and monogamy, religion, lifestyle, etc. These are things that you insist upon for a long lasting and cohesive relationship and you will not negotiate on.
Beware of the Jerks. Men who do not treat you with respect, are users or those that don’t take a committed relationship seriously. And those that are physically or verbally abusive. It is a waste of time and hurtful to your mental wellness to try to make it in a relationship with such men. If they seem attractive to you for whatever reason you may need to seek professional counseling to delve into the reasons why.
Write it all down. The type of man you want and DO NOT deviate from this reference. Don’t waste your time on men that do not fit what you want and need. Be determined and keep steadfast in the belief that you will find this man.