Being a mother means a lot of sacrifices, which even a mother is not aware she is already doing it, because of love for her children.
With this post, I want to pay tribute and great respect for single moms/single parents I knew, two of them had been close to our family, because they are the ones we would like to help, in any way, for their children.
>Let’s call our First Friend as Linda
I just met Linda when I accidentally sent a text message while I was waiting for the laundrywoman who comes to our home every week to help me. I was surprised when a different woman showed up, so I apologized to her, saying I already had one working for us. But she begged, saying she has five mouths to feed. From there, we became friends as I learned her story deeper.
Linda became a single mom by unfavorable circumstances. She married her husband whom she just met while working as a sales agent for some cosmetic products. Maybe she did not know the man’s background and fell easily for him. But her woes started when she bore their first child, she found the man to be so lazy and a drunkard. oftentimes, he would even beat Linda for certain little things.
But I was wondering why she allowed to have four more children, in spite of that bad experiences she had with her husband. Linda said she also did not know and that she made a big, big mistake. And last year, Linda came to her senses and decided to leave his erring husband. This came to her after her children also suffered beatings from him when he comes home intoxicated with alcohol.
Linda approached us to help her find a cheap room for rent for her five children. And at that time, we had a vacant house, our former house which we are selling to my siblings after we were able to build a new one at our favored location. We allowed her and her children to stay there for free until such time when my relatives decide to buy the house. So they stayed there for a month. She was able to find a cheap place to transfer.
Linda exerted all her efforts doing the laundry for different people, at the same time selling goods or any merchandise she could think of during her spare time. To help her, we asked her two older children to come to our place on weekends to help me with some house cleaning. And the money I paid them served as their allowance in school for the whole week. We were very cautious to hire the two children, who are still in high school levels, knowing that it would be against child labor laws. But Linda begged saying it would help them survive. So my husband and I agreed.
Aside from doing odd jobs, it was good that Linda became a recipient of the government’s fast cash transfer program, a project for poor qualified families to help children for their education. The were given small amounts monthly as stipend.
Up to now, Linda is trying to keep afloat. Hopefully her children could finish education and get jobs someday to help their mother.
> Our Second Friend Rose
Like Linda, Rose left her irresponsible husband who succumbed to drugs and alcohol, neglecting their three children. Rose is younger than Linda. But Rose is more capable to earn a living for her three children because she know therapeutic massage, a skill she acquired when she was given scholarship by a local school here to train. It helped her raise her three children, the youngest now being a year old only, and the eldest, 10.
A cousin referred her to us when we looked for a good therapist for our aching bodies. She worked very professionally, and charges us quite low for her services. During therapy sessions, I learned about her story, and I knew she was not just spinning it to dupe us. She was a student of my sister while she was at the elementary level at a public school in our place.And that’s one reason that she earned our trust.
Rose does not stop finding opportunities to earn for her three children. She even moonlights as dishwasher for my cousin’s catering business. I told her to just concentrate on being a massage therapist, but she replied that she could not afford to be lazy because of her children.
> Big Hearts
Linda and Rose just personify so many single mothers who had to survive the odds to provide decent lives for their children. Those mothers deserved to be given accolade for their selfless efforts to raise and educate their children; providing them food, at the same time guiding their children to have a good future.
They tried to correct their mistakes by making sure that their children will not repeat their life’s stories. And they compensate their incapacity to provide luxury or material things to their children by giving them love, unconditional love!
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