Be a mediator (Part 1)

There are no fixed guidelines on how to be a good mediator. It can be argued that for some people it is a natural condition to go and help other persons in dispute to find a fair solution for both of them or to propose a solution or arrangement that helps them to get to a fair resolution of their problem.

However being a mediator is a characteristic that people can acquire with time. There is certain personal satisfaction when you feel that you have intervened in a problem and have helped people to get closer.

Learn to listen: Not just hear. You may probably have heard that listening is more than the biological process of hearing the sounds. When you listen to a person it means that you pay attention to him/her and try to understand his/ her concerns and why he or she is having a particular position. Only after you try to understand what are the inner reasons why a person is fighting you may try to fix a problem. The most important thing at this point is to try to understand the other. Be in his/ her shoes. If you train in this skill you will also learn more about yourself at the same time: your prejudices and how judgmental you are. Sometimes it can be difficult to listen to the other’s arguments when we have a formed opinion but the most you worked on this the better results you will get.

I will see you on the second part of this tip

4 thoughts on “Be a mediator (Part 1)”

  1. really it is difficult to mediate, most of the time, the mediator is place at the center of the fight or sometimes the mediator is to blame when things go out of hand. good point/tips

  2. In my family as the eldest I am always acting as a mediator and it is not an easy task because I have to be very careful in weighing the situation and sometimes some of my siblings get huff on me if I give my decision in favor to one side.


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