Relationships are essential for us as human beings. We crave affection, intimacy, and interaction. And this is what close relationships provide for us. So it can be all the more devastating when a relationship comes to an end. The problem is there is no rulebook for dealing with the fallout of a breakup.
Everyone is different, and we all deal with the process in different ways. All you can do is take advice and try to figure out what works best for you. It might take a long time, or you may be over it pretty quickly. It’s just a case of what works for you as an individual. Here are nine courses of action you can and should take following a breakup.
- Take Time
It’s important to remember that you need to take your time. You’re not going to be able to snap your fingers and suddenly be okay again. This is a process and one that can take a long time. And this is okay, but you need to be aware of the fact that it could take a while. You’ve got to take an appropriate amount of time to wallow and be a bit miserable. It’s part of the healing process. Don’t try to get back to a normal routine right away because you won’t be ready. Take your time, and make sure you heal.
- Avoid Drowning Your Sorrows
Now, we all know what it’s like in these sorts of situations. We lose the love of our lives, and we all go through a self-pity phase. And the easiest answer is to shut off the pain by blocking it out. So many of us will hit the bottle, and spend our time getting drunk a lot. While this might seem like fun, it’s actually not advisable. You’re in a delicate state right now, and alcohol is a stimulant. It can and will stimulate your depressive mood, and make you feel even worse. It can also act as a gateway for harder and more dangerous drugs later down the line. Sure, you can have the odd night out with friends. But try to curtail the drinking, and don’t do too much alone drinking!
- Talk to Friends
You know when you have good friends when you hit times of trial. The real friends are the ones who are there for you and who will look after you. And you need to make use of the fact that you have great friends. Talk to them and tell them about how you’re feeling and what you’re worried about. It’s helpful to get things off your chest. Your friends are also good to hang out with and be around at a time like this. They will help to take your mind off feeling miserable by keeping you entertained.
- Resist the Urge to Facebook Stalk!
As soon as you break up with a person it’s going to be very easy to Facebook stalk them. You need to try to resist the urge to do this. That’s going to be tricky because social media is so omnipresent and accessible these days. But you must try to avoid tracking your ex’s every move via Facebook. You’re only going to read too much into things, and it will play games with your head. It’s not healthy to do this, and it’s not going to help with the moving on part of the process. If you are concerned, then you need to block your ex in order to remove temptation.
- Take Comfort in Pop Culture
It might sound silly, but modern pop culture can provide a lot of comfort in these situations. There are so many songs, movies, books and TV shows about relationships and breakups. And these can be very helpful and therapeutic. It’s good to know that you aren’t alone, and there are others out there with the same experiences. Take comfort in your favourite movies and songs, and allow them to ease the pain in your heart.
- Win Them Back!
Okay, so you might have decided that all that self-pity and wallowing isn’t for you. Maybe instead you’ve decided you want to win your partner back. Whether or not this is the right decision may not be clear until later. But for now you need to initiate Operation Get Your Ex Back! There are a few things you might like to do to help you achieve this. There are online guides to help you through this, and you can visit Breakup Knowledge to find out more. If you’re still on friendly terms, you might want to get in touch and arrange to meet up and hang out. It’s important to take things slow and play it just right.
- Keep Busy
Of course, when you first encounter a relationship breakup you need to make sure you keep busy. Keeping your mind off what’s happened is a helpful way of moving forward. It can be difficult to do this, but there are options available to you. Maybe you should think about taking up a hobby? Or you could immerse yourself in work. Just make sure you find something to do that’s going to take your mind off the breakup.
- Start Dating Again
When you feel the time is right, you might decide you’d like to try dating again. There’s no right or wrong time for this to happen. You just have to make sure you are ready and looking to get back on the metaphorical horse. It can be scary going back into the world of dating after being in a relationship, but it’s entirely possible to get a good date. You might think about signing up for online dating sites to increase your chances of meeting someone.
So, there we have it guys and girls, and eight-step guide to dealing with a breakup. No one said it was going to be easy, and you might want to use other means of dealing with your breakup. But these are eight methods that can have very positive results, and you need to make sure you try them out.