When you’re new to the world of online dating, it can seem like a total minefield. Who are all of these people, and can you trust them, and do they really look as good as their photos would suggest? The last thing that you want to do is end up with a catfish, and it can be pretty awkward to squeeze out of the restaurant window when you decide that you just don’t fancy this person at all. So how can you smash online dating, and swipe right on the man or woman of your dreams?
#1: Ask the right questions
Before you date anybody, you should talk to them online for a sufficient amount of time to try to figure out whether you’re 100% sure about going on a date with them. This is the prime time to look out for those red flags, and although people can be prone to fabrication on online dating sites, this allows you to get to know somebody for a little while before you sign up for anything IRL. Don’t be afraid to ask the right questions!
#2: Meet your date in a public place
Whatever you decide to do with your date, make sure that you meet them in a public place (especially if you’re a woman). Whilst you may think that you can trust them, you never know who this person actually is, and what their intentions are. Meet somewhere where there are a lot of other people around, and ensure that you feel comfortable there. This will put you at ease about your safety and security on your date.
#3: Look for a suitable website or app
There are plenty of dating sites out there, and it can be difficult for you to know which one to choose. Some of them – for example, Tinder and Grindr – are well-known for being home to those looking for more casual situations, whereas Muslim dating sites and their counterparts are better suited to people who are looking for something more serious. Think about what you want to get out of this, and choose the right platform.
#4: Don’t be the catfish
Whilst you don’t want to bump into a catfish when online dating, you also don’t want to be one. You can do this by lying to people about what job you have or where you live, or putting up photos that don’t really look like you. You don’t need to give people your exact address (or send your ugliest photos over to them) but you do need to make sure that you’re not purposely misleading them about who you are.
#5: Check out their social media
OK, so you shouldn’t go and add your date on Facebook or follow them on Twitter before you meet them, because this is kinda creepy. However, you should check out their social media a little bit, just to see a) whether they really exist, and b) whether their existence is reinforced by the fact that they have actual, real-looking friends. Don’t start stalking, but do have a browse to check that they’re legit.
Good luck, and happy dating!